so, in light of the finale, there’s been a lot of jydia celebrations— and rightfully so! jydia just had an amazingly touching reunion, and i think it’s pretty fair to say that lydia and jackson have something that is very, very special. lydia’s love saved jackson, after all! that’s gotta count for something! and it does, and it has, and it will continue to.
now, where does that leave stiles? we’ve had a few glimpses at what’s to come between stiles and lydia— quotes from jeff davis and dylan o’brien and (at the very end of the finale) stiles himself have painted a pretty clear picture: jydia might have had their moment, but stydia isn’t over. stydia won’t be over, after all, until stiles says it’s over. a lot of people want to twist this into something unhealthy or something misogynistic or something that makes stiles into a bad character, and i’m losing my freaking mind over it. so here we go: my in defense of stiles post.
disclaimer: this got WAY LONGER than i anticipated. i’m so sorry.
Yes, THIS. This is what I think Jeff meant in that interview; not that Stiles and Lydia will happen, but that Stiles will spend most of season 3 getting over her. He’s just been in love with her for so long… It’d be weird if he didn’t need some time to get over that!
I think his understanding of this particular kind of loss would only give him more in common with Derek, tbh, not less.
I want to talk about Stiles and Lydia for a second. There’s been a lot of discussion about Stiles’ crush on Lydia and that he’s “Nice Guy-ing” her.
For those of you who’ve never heard the term before, the Nice Guy is one where he is not actually nice at all and in fact, he’s using “friendship” and “niceness” as tools to get what he wants. He doesn’t see the girl in question as anything more than an object he can obtain and he believes “friendship” is a mere obstacle in getting into said girl’s pants. He tends to do over-the-top things to get her to “notice” him and somehow magically she will see him as a potential partner. It goes hand-in-hand a lot with the notion of Friend-zoning (which is also total bullshit), because Nice Guys often claimed they’ve been put in the Friend Zone by the object of their affection and the fact that said girl is never attracted to them is somehow a mark against HER and not him.
All of that is of course horrible. Girls are not magic machines that if you put enough friendship coins into, they spit out sex and attention. Girls do not owe boys anything, no matter how much attention they’re given. Girls are not evil or bad or stupid or WHATEVER for not wanting to date someone.
Having said all that, here’s why Stiles’ crush on Lydia doesn’t bother me and why I don’t think he’s a Nice Guy:
Basically this is me talking about the ladies of Teen Wolf.
And it’s long.
But it’s been a long time coming.
Nor is it as interesting as last night’s opening credits thing. M’kay? M’kay.